Negotiate (ni go/she at) to deal or bargain with another or others in the preparation of a treaty or contract. To bring about by discussion and settlement of terms. To move through, around or over in a satisfactory manner.
The art of negotiation is a complex one. With ourselves, with each other - we are uncomfortable during the process, relieved when it is over and not anxious to go thru it again. The reality of life is we should got thru the process more often than we do. In our relationships with others, time and circumstances take their toll and there are times, we need to step back and do a new deal.
I think marriages need negotiations regularly to keep their balance. We have to continue to make changes if we expect to grow. With our kids, we have to negotiate with our kids as they grow up - you can't treat a teen like you did when he was 5. Our relationships with others also need to be examined and dealt with - move, around or over in a satisfactory manner.
I am in the middle of one now. It hit me yesterday that this need to be done. Not a seperation or the ending a relationship but a serious look at negotiating a New Deal. One that I can understand and come to terms with. One that I can live with...
Peace is around the corner. We all have expectations and when those expectations are not met, trouble ensues. The deal is to stop banging your head again the wall and see how that is so not working. We all negotiate in our everyday lives, some are more difficult than others. Everytime we go through one, we get better at it. Our skills become sharper and our lives improve and we become better people.
I am hopeful. I think this is doable. I know it is necessary. Life is good - especially on Fridays...
