Spent more than half my life avoiding anything to do with chemistry thinking it was all about beakers and lab coats and while that is still my thinking, I am now all about the other kind of chemistry. The kind that has to do with us humans.
Heard Emma Stone/The Help talk about having to take a chemistry test with a fellow actor to make sure they clicked before starting a movie. Didn't know they did that sort of thing but it makes perfect sense.
Just like speed dating. You can tell in very little time if you are compatible with someone whether it be romantically, friendship or even in a job interview. There is a certain chemistry that attracts us to each other, nothing you could ever put your finger on but as real as real can be.
Years ago I asked about five guys who didn’t know each other to meet me for breakfast. I hand chose these guys. Each of them were intelligent, driven, successful and emotionally stable. We got together early one morning and I introduced them to each other. Then I did something very strange. I told them we all needed to be friends. I told them the world was in need of good leaders, and good leaders only become good leaders if they affect each other. As odd as it was, that group continued to meet for two years, and now we are all deeply imbedded in each others lives.Donald Miller.
I can't imagine anything sweeter than putting together women I know that I think, would love each other. I have thought about this many times, and if location was not a hindrance - would have gone there by now. Have had discussions about women and mentoring but you have to consider the chemistry factor and if it isn't there, it isn't there. I have been on both ends of the chemistry debate. I have learned to trust it and move on. We can't like everybody and everyone won't like us. You can like someone in an instant and try for years to make something happen that just isn't there. Trust it and move on. There are bigger fish to fry...
